What came first the Women, Wife, or Mother?

I have to say I love all of the roles I play but when you boil them all down are they the same or are they one in the same? (very similar to the chicken and the egg) 

I think this is something women have been dealing with forever - what is most important and where do we start? Here's my take...

I am first and foremost a women! A quote I stumbled upon - "I am mine. Before I am anyone else's" - IN, Nayyirah Waheed. If I am not doing well there the other roles are going to be lacking.  The key things for me to feel at my best are quality time with people, some Jesus, fashion, hair done, a party, and coffee/wine always helps! 

When I stop to think about what I need to be a good wife a lot of them are the same as what I need to be a good women but with a different spin. Well let me go back, I need a man... Check. Perfect! Now that’s in order I begin again. 

I need to make sure my friends are pro Jim. If I call one of these girls and they are not pro Jim, they could give me advice that is not for my marriage. I need all of my close friends to want my marriage to work, it's a must. When it comes to being Jim's wife I am proud to be in this space. I know being a wife isn't something everyone gets to do and I am thankful I get to do it with Jim. My main wifely job is to support my husband. 

Now I don't mean do whatever he says and never have a problem with something he does... No no no. I mean to truly support him, to want well for him and to see the man God made him to be and be willing to fight for him to be that man as much as he can.

(Like let me tell you the conversation we literally just had -

Jim: I'm going up the street to drop a pokemon off.

Me: What? 

Jim: I'm going up the street to drop a pokemon off.

Me: You should be embarrassed

Jim: You're right, I'll be right back)

Ha! Fighting for him isn't agreeing all the time it's being the best version of the women he married as often as I can, and telling him to stop playing that silly game! 

Now same as before, if I am not good as a women I can't be good as a wife; if I am not good as a wife I can not be good as a mother. So again this is why I think they get blurry. Being a mother has honestly been a joy! I feel lucky to have these three little creatures looking back at me each day. Somethings I do to make sure I am well here is shower... People, look back at being a women I can't loose her but I am finding that to be a good mom I need to be clean and put together. Do I do this everyday? Almost. 

Every day I snuggle each kid, It's very important. Making sure they all get this time is MAJOR! We shop, hit up parks, play, build train tracks, we have a schedule that is very strict until we break it. :) We get out of the house, I have made the ipad/tv my friend not my enemy. We sit down to eat breakfast and lunch, everyday. We are in no rush - this one is key; yes we live in America but there is no reason to get stuck in the chaos! We facetime family that is way to far away. We enjoy each other, very much! 

The goal is to live a life full of creativity focused on who our kids are. I want to lean into the things they love because it builds into me to see them learn and grow. 

All that being said, I think they stem from each other. If one is lacking the other two will aslo. I want to be whole in all parts of my life. I promise I will continue to start with me! Because without her what was this all for?